Parents of Rutgers student who committed suicide say “Sin needs to be taken out of homosexuality” – Rock Center with Brian Williams

But the Clementis also say they realize their son was wrestling with demons unrelated to the spying incident. Just weeks before he left home to attend Rutgers he told his mother he was gay. She says the news “shocked” her, in part because of her strong Christian faith. Since then she says she’s gone from “point A” in her beliefs “to point B.”

“Was that point A, the point of “homosexuality is a sin?” asked Holt.

“Well, yes,” Mrs. Clementi answered. “And of trying to just accept it.”

She said she also realizes that Tyler may have misread her reaction during their conversation. He later texted a friend that his mother had rejected him after he came out to her.

“It just was like a dagger,” Mrs. Clementi said. “And that took me a long time to process. Because I did not think I had rejected him.”

via Parents of Rutgers student who committed suicide say “Sin needs to be taken out of homosexuality” – Rock Center with Brian Williams.

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Grieving parents: Gay teens walk a painful, lonely path | syracuse.com

Twenty or 30 years ago, Tracy said, gay children could at least find safety away from school. In the age of Internet, electronic insults followed Jamey home. Since his death, Tracy and Tim have grown to realize, day by day, how unbearable his ordeal must have become.

“People don’t wake up one day and say, ‘I’m gay,'” Tracy said Sunday, from an altar adorned with rainbow-colored cloth and candles at All Saints. “My son, on his 14th birthday, didn’t say, ‘I want to get picked on, I can’t wait to get pushed around, so I’m going to tell people I’m gay.'”

As they went through Jamey’s room in the days after his death, his parents were surprised by what they found: Their son had written a passionate essay supporting gay marriage. He created T-shirts with slogans supporting gay rights and tolerance.

“Unfortunately,” Tracy said, “he had a harder time believing it for himself.”

Grieving parents: Gay teens walk a painful, lonely path | syracuse.com.

Growing Up LGBT In America: HRC Survey Polls 10,000 Gay Youth On Bullying And Education Issues

Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) youth are twice as likely to say they have been physically assaulted, kicked or shoved at school. Ninety-two percent say they hear negative messages about being LGBT through school, the Internet and peers, while 42 percent say the community they live in is not accepting of LGBT people.

Those are just three of the more disturbing statistics unveiled by the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) as part of its “Growing Up LGBT In America” survey, released to coincide with the start of the advocacy group’s incoming president Chad Griffin’s tenure.

HRC officials have deemed the survey — which polled more than 10,000 LGBT youth between the ages of 13 and 17 years old around the country — “groundbreaking,” though acknowledging that it “provides a stark picture of the difficulties they face — the impact on their well-being is profound.”

On a more optimistic note, however, officials also note that “these youth are quite resilient. They find safe havens among their peers, online and in their schools.”

In a statement cited by MetroWeekly among other publications, Griffin noted, “We have a responsibility to change that, because we know all too well that there are real life consequences to inaction.”

You can view the full report here.

Growing Up LGBT In America: HRC Survey Polls 10,000 Gay Youth On Bullying And Education Issues.

Metro – Former Rutgers student Dharun Ravi sentencd to 30 days in prison

Dharun Ravi

A former Rutgers University student was sentenced on Monday to 30 days in prison for hate crimes after spying on his roommate’s gay encounter with another man.

Dharun Ravi, 20, had faced a maximum of 10 years behind bars for his conviction, which ramped up penalties in the invasion of privacy case in Middlesex County Superior Court in New Jersey. The sentence was imposed by Judge Glenn Berman, who also gave Ravi probation

via Metro – Former Rutgers student Dharun Ravi sentencd to 30 days in prison.

Gay teen’s suicide in Utah highlights youth bullying risks – CNBC

SALT LAKE CITY (Reuters) – Gay rights activists in Utah are calling for action to halt bullying in the conservative state after the suicide of a small-town gay Mormon teenager who friends and activists said was tormented at school because of his sexual orientation.

Utah has the nation’s 12th highest rate of youth suicide, according to a 2009 report from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. On average, two teens a day are treated in Utah emergency rooms after suicide attempts, state health department data from 2008 to 2010 showed.

via Gay teen’s suicide in Utah highlights youth bullying risks – CNBC.

Teen suicide is a serious problem in both gay and straight youth and bullying plays a big role in this, below are some resources available to those who may be thinking about suicide or youth questioning their sexuality, remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem – MAKE THE CALL!

 

OUR OPINION: We must stop bullying. It starts here. And it starts now. – Sioux City Journal

Siouxland lost a young life to a senseless, shameful tragedy last week. By all accounts, Kenneth Weishuhn was a kind-hearted, fun-loving teenage boy, always looking to make others smile. But when the South O’Brien High School 14-year-old told friends he was gay, the harassment and bullying began. It didn’t let up until he took his own life.

Sadly, Kenneth’s story is far from unique. Boys and girls across Iowa and beyond are targeted every day. In this case sexual orientation appears to have played a role, but we have learned a bully needs no reason to strike. No sense can be made of these actions.

Now our community and region must face this stark reality: We are all to blame. We have not done enough. Not nearly enough.

This is not a failure of one group of kids, one school, one town, one county or one geographic area. Rather, it exposes a fundamental flaw in our society, one that has deep-seated roots. Until now, it has been too difficult, inconvenient — maybe%2

via OUR OPINION: We must stop bullying. It starts here. And it starts now..

14-Year-Old Kenneth James Weishuhn Commits Suicide After Coming Out / Queerty

A post on CNN’s iReports—which doesn’t vet or fact-check its content—is saying 14-year-old Kenneth James Weishuhn of Primghar, Iowa, committed suicide on Saturday night and was found dead on Sunday. (A funeral announcement seems to confirm the story.) Details are sketchy at this point, but James had been bullied regularly since he came out at school several months ago

via 14-Year-Old Kenneth James Weishuhn Commits Suicide After Coming Out / Queerty.

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Teen suicide is a serious problem in both gay and straight youth and bullying plays a big role in this, below are some resources available to those who may be thinking about suicide or youth questioning their sexuality, remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem – MAKE THE CALL!

 

Tyler Clementi

On September 22, 2010 Tyler Clementi felt he had no other alternatives than to jump off a bridge and end his life.  At the tender young age of 18 when life should be nearly perfect for a musically gifted man just starting college at Rutgers University he chose to end his life.

Tyler starting his freshman year in college had told his parents before going off to school that he was gay,  he was in the closet until this time,  he kept his sexual orientation a secret for nearly his entire life.  This is truly sad that he was not able to live his life openly as who he was due to rampant homophobia.  Why it took him so long to tell his parents we will probably never know, but there had to be an underlying reason.

Tyler was a victim of homophobia,  while Tyler made the decision to jump society as a whole let this young man down.  When you have big political and government figures openly spewing their hate on the main media outlets it perpetuates homophobia.  Unlike homosexuality people are not born homophobes, they learn it from such organizations as the westboro baptist church – perpetuating intolerance and hate.

Parents love your children no matter what and make sure they know that, talk with the about these sensitive issues and let them know they can always be open and honest with you and you will always except them as they are and support them.  No parent should have to endure what Joe & Jane Clementi have just gone through – a trial of a person who contributed to Tyler’s decision to end his life.

Just imagine if Tyler was able to accept early in his life that he was gay, his parents gave him unconditional love and support so he was able to be open and honest to them,  this most likely would have helped Tyler be more comfortable in who he was,  had he had more confidence in himself he probably could have better coped with the bullying he ultimately received.

Teen suicide is a serious problem in both gay and straight youth and bullying plays a big role in this, below are some resources available to those who may be thinking about suicide or youth questioning their sexuality, remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem – MAKE THE CALL!