Gays, lesbians and family values: The next generation isn’t ready to redefine marriage | OregonLive.com

 

The last time we redefined marriage was when we removed “till death do us part” and introduced no-fault divorce. At that time, our parents’ generation was told that it wouldn’t do any harm. Now we know better. As the product of the largest divorce generation, roughly 50 percent of our friends come from broken homes. We have held their hands and heard the pain that divorce and one-parent families have caused. Seeing firsthand how redefining marriage affected my generation, I’m not so keen to have us experiment with children again.

The best decision my parents made was to divorce once and for all,  it went back and forth for years and was devastating to our family with six kids involved.  Once they finally got the divorced the healing began and life gradually got much better. I would NEVER recommend a husband and wife stay together for the children,  that was the worse they could have done,  it was like living in hell.  Anyone who is in a downward spiral relationship or ANY abusive relationship – GET OUT NOW!

While I know and love many gays and lesbians, it has never changed my opinion on the family. Gays and lesbians deserve love and respect, but I don’t believe my friends’ sexual orientation should dictate what marriage is, should be, or its importance and value. Marriage is a unique relationship between a man and a woman meant to unite them, and any children they may create. It isn’t about who has the “right” to marry; you either fit the definition or not. The definition doesn’t discriminate. Everyone must fit the qualifications equally. If you are already married, if you are under 18, if you are closely related, if you are not one man and one woman, you don’t fit the qualifications and cannot marry.

The current “Qualifications” do discriminate, if two committed individuals cannot get the same benefits of marriage it is discrimination.

The last generation broke down the family, split it up and devalued it. I want a better generation for my kids. I want them to grow up in a world that values marriage and families while respecting people. Let’s put the focus of marriage back on what is best for children, not on our own desires for recognition and what is best for “me.” That kind of thinking is what got us to generation divorcé. That didn’t work out well.

What is best for the children is a loving and supportive home environment where hate is not taught.  The gender of the parents should be irrelevent. Just because it takes a man and a women to create a child does not automatically make them the best parents for that child.

via Gays, lesbians and family values: The next generation isn’t ready to redefine marriage | OregonLive.com.

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Caiden Cowger, Conservative Teen Radio Host, Slams President Obama For ‘Making Kids Gay’

A West Virginia-based teen radio host is making waves after proclaiming that President Obama “is making kids gay” in a recent episode.

Fourteen-year-old Caiden Cowger, who hosts the twice-weekly “Caiden Cowger Show,” made his anti-gay proclamations in a recent broadcast, video of which was uploaded to his YouTube channel on May 26. “Homosexuality is a belief,” Cowger, who has previously interviewed former GOP presidential candidate Herman Cain, declares. “The person is not born that way, no matter what Lady Gaga says…it is a decision.”

After confessing that he was once friends with some kids who have since come out as gay, he notes, “They were not homosexuals [then]…they just decided all of a sudden, ‘I think I’m going to be gay,'” before he eventually concludes, “I’m going to tell you this, guys: President Obama…Vice President Biden…is making kids gay!”

Cowger, who is identified by The New Civil Rights Movement as a Pentecostal Christian, slams homosexuality as “a perverted belief, it’s immoral and not natural” before noting, “I’m not for bullying homosexuals, I believe that it’s wrong. But when you’re trying to teach them the word of God and they consider that bullying…I find that a big problem, not being allowed to convert other people to my religion.”

via Caiden Cowger, Conservative Teen Radio Host, Slams President Obama For ‘Making Kids Gay’.

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Maryland gay marriage foes have signatures for referendum | Reuters

Tue May 29, 2012 7:42pm EDT

(Reuters) – Opponents of same-sex marriage in Maryland announced on Tuesday they have submitted more than twice the number of signatures needed to put the state’s new law allowing gay and lesbian couples to marry before voters in a referendum.

The Maryland Marriage Alliance, a coalition of groups working to preserve the traditional definition of marriage as a union between a man and a woman, said it has collected more than 113,000 voter signatures.

That figure far exceeded the 56,000 signatures needed to bring the law to a referendum. A third of those had to be submitted by Thursday.

“There are people that are just impassioned about this issue around the state,” said the organization’s executive director, Derek McCoy, speaking after a press conference announcing the success of the petition drive. “I think what you’re seeing is, people don’t want a radical redefinition of marriage just on a whim.”

McCoy said more than 4,000 people trained to collect signatures campaigned in churches and other venues, and held gatherings in their homes within the last couple of months.

He said support for the referendum grew after President Barack Obama announced his support for same-sex marriage, as Maryland voters unhappy with this announcement “came off the fence” and decided to sign the petition.

Marylanders for Marriage Equality campaign manager Josh Levin said in a statement that the opponents’ announcement comes as no surprise, but added that “it’s clear those opposed to marriage equality are losing ground.”

A poll conducted recently by the organization found 57 percent of Maryland residents would vote to uphold the law legalizing same-sex unions, and 37 percent would vote against it if the election were held today.

In March, Maryland became the eighth U.S. state to legalize same-sex marriage, joining the District of Columbia, Massachusetts, Iowa, Vermont, New Hampshire, Connecticut and New York. when Governor Martin O’Malley signed the measure into law.

In Washington state, where Governor Christine Gregoire signed a law legalizing same-sex marriage in February, opponents are trying to bring the issue to a voter referendum in November. In New Jersey, similar legislation passed both houses before it was vetoed by Governor Chris Christie.

via Maryland gay marriage foes have signatures for referendum | Reuters.

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Residents upset after county bends rules for pastor protestors | www.wsoctv.com

CATAWBA COUNTY, N.C. — Residents are in a fury with Catawba County leaders for making an exception to an existing rule. Protestors were allowed to demonstrate Sunday against a pastor who made anti-gay comments during a sermon on Mother’s Day. County ordinance requires groups to submit a request for a permit to use public grounds. Groups are required to submit the request 14 days in advance.

via Residents upset after county bends rules for pastor protestors | www.wsoctv.com.

Pastor Worley preaches to joyful, supportive congregation at Maiden church | Hickory Daily Record

MAIDEN, N.C. – It was an emotional service on Sunday morning at Providence Road Baptist Church as the congregation rallied around Pastor Charles Worley, one week after his controversial remarks regarding homosexuals became public.

Church members and about 100 visitors from in and outside the area gave Worley a standing ovation when he approached the pulpit. A few members stood up from the pews and spoke out in favor of Worley as officers watched and intervened when one particularly longwinded member spoke.

The atmosphere was a vocal and jubilant one. The sanctuary was mostly full, with the vast majority of the crowd singing and crying out in joy. Many threw their hands up in praising the Lord and in support of the pastor.

via Pastor Worley preaches to joyful, supportive congregation at Maiden church | Hickory Daily Record.

Elke Kennedy: This Mother’s Day, Let’s Stand Together to Protect Our LGBT Children

I am Sean Kennedy’s mother, Elke Kennedy, and I am reaching out to other moms who might or might not accept of the fact that their son or daughter is gay. Most of you do not know what it is like to receive a phone call like I got at 4:30 a.m. telling me that something had happened to my child.

The worst thing every mother dreads hit me two days after Mother’s Day in 2007. On that day, May 16, 2007, my youngest son, Sean, was taken away from me by hate because of his sexual orientation. When I got to the hospital that morning, I had the sickening feeling in my stomach that this was serious. When I finally got to see my son, he was already on life support. His hands were so cold; I wanted to warm him up. I told him that everything would be all right now, because Mom was here. I prayed to God to please let him be OK, and to let me take Sean’s place, because he hadn’t been able to live his life. Of course, it doesn’t work that way, and we hoped and waited for the next 17 hours that Sean would be all right. But it wasn’t meant to be that way. We gathered at Sean’s bed in a state of complete exhaustion and shock as we were told that he was brain-dead. Sixty young people had been with us at the hospital all day and night, telling me so many stories about Sean, about how they loved him and needed him. Now I had to go out there and tell these young people that their friend had died, but that he would live on in others, because he’d donated his organs. Each of the kids got to go back and say their goodbyes. It was so difficult to hear their goodbyes and see all their emotions.

Now I had to plan his memorial service, and our church told us that we could have the service there. Then, that Friday, after everything had been communicated to family and friends and the newspaper, we received a phone call telling us that the elders of the church had decided that we could not have the service there after all, because Sean was gay. After many phone calls back and forth, they allowed us to have the service there in the end. However, afterwards, we were no longer welcome at the church

via Elke Kennedy: This Mother’s Day, Let’s Stand Together to Protect Our LGBT Children.

Pastor Sean Harris: I Was Just Kidding When I Told People To Punch Their Gay Kids / Queerty

“Can I make it any clearer? Dads, the second you see that son dropping the limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist. Man up. Give them a good punch. Okay? You’re not going to act like that—you were made by God to be a male and you’re going to be a male.”

via Pastor Sean Harris: I Was Just Kidding When I Told People To Punch Their Gay Kids / Queerty.

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14-Year-Old Kenneth James Weishuhn Commits Suicide After Coming Out / Queerty

A post on CNN’s iReports—which doesn’t vet or fact-check its content—is saying 14-year-old Kenneth James Weishuhn of Primghar, Iowa, committed suicide on Saturday night and was found dead on Sunday. (A funeral announcement seems to confirm the story.) Details are sketchy at this point, but James had been bullied regularly since he came out at school several months ago

via 14-Year-Old Kenneth James Weishuhn Commits Suicide After Coming Out / Queerty.

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Teen suicide is a serious problem in both gay and straight youth and bullying plays a big role in this, below are some resources available to those who may be thinking about suicide or youth questioning their sexuality, remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem – MAKE THE CALL!

 

Ignorant People

Tony Perkins: ‘If You Want A Military That Just Does Parades,’ Allow Gays To Openly Serve

Tamara Scott: Gay Marriage Leads To Eiffel Tower Marriage

Linda Harvey: Don’t Let Gay Doctors Attend To Your Children

Scott Lively: Gay-Straight Alliances Are Designed To Recruit Kids

Robertson Compares Polygamy, Bestiality And Pedophilia To Gay Marriage

Bryan Fischer On Why Gays Are Responsible For The Nazi Party

Pastor Wooden Says Gay Sex Causes Gay Men To Need Diapers

James Robison: ‘The Enemy’ Is Using ‘Glee’ To Destroy America

Newt Gingrich: Gay Marriage A ‘Perfect Example Of What I Mean By The Rise Of Paganism’

Daniel Lapin: Gays Should’ve Been Quarantined To fight AIDS

Liberty Counsel Warns That Macy’s LGBT Policy Could Lead To Rape, Sexual Assault

 

 

 

Homophobes need (gay) love too

And then came the headline that surprised exactly no one and delighted a great many, even as it openly terrified countless thousands across the deep south and also Utah and Kansas and pretty much the entire GOP. The poor dears.

“Homophobes might be secretly attracted to people of the same sex,” is what the headline read, I mean obviously, I mean of course you already know what the researchers discovered, you and every conscious human within a 10,000 mile radius who also snickered, rolled her eyes and then sighed heavily with the obviousness of it all. It is not always the way?

Really, who doesn’t already know? Who among us with the slightest acumen toward self-reflection doesn’t fully understand that the more you wail against something, the more violently outspoken or hateful you are against this or that perceived indiscretion, sexual proclivity, perversion, deviance, expression, delight, taste sensation, the more certain it is that said deliciousness secretly attracts you, turns you on and makes you enormously, terrifically scared?

Case after case, priest after priest, GOP senator after megachurch pastor after spittle-flecked Tea Party zealot — all suddenly caught pants down in a bathroom stall, in a leather bar, gay chat room, in a Grindr hookup app, living out their real and honest selves even as they rail and oppose and thump their Bibles ever

via Homophobes need (gay) love too.