The last time we redefined marriage was when we removed “till death do us part” and introduced no-fault divorce. At that time, our parents’ generation was told that it wouldn’t do any harm. Now we know better. As the product of the largest divorce generation, roughly 50 percent of our friends come from broken homes. We have held their hands and heard the pain that divorce and one-parent families have caused. Seeing firsthand how redefining marriage affected my generation, I’m not so keen to have us experiment with children again.
The best decision my parents made was to divorce once and for all, it went back and forth for years and was devastating to our family with six kids involved. Once they finally got the divorced the healing began and life gradually got much better. I would NEVER recommend a husband and wife stay together for the children, that was the worse they could have done, it was like living in hell. Anyone who is in a downward spiral relationship or ANY abusive relationship – GET OUT NOW!
While I know and love many gays and lesbians, it has never changed my opinion on the family. Gays and lesbians deserve love and respect, but I don’t believe my friends’ sexual orientation should dictate what marriage is, should be, or its importance and value. Marriage is a unique relationship between a man and a woman meant to unite them, and any children they may create. It isn’t about who has the “right” to marry; you either fit the definition or not. The definition doesn’t discriminate. Everyone must fit the qualifications equally. If you are already married, if you are under 18, if you are closely related, if you are not one man and one woman, you don’t fit the qualifications and cannot marry.
The current “Qualifications” do discriminate, if two committed individuals cannot get the same benefits of marriage it is discrimination.
The last generation broke down the family, split it up and devalued it. I want a better generation for my kids. I want them to grow up in a world that values marriage and families while respecting people. Let’s put the focus of marriage back on what is best for children, not on our own desires for recognition and what is best for “me.” That kind of thinking is what got us to generation divorcé. That didn’t work out well.
What is best for the children is a loving and supportive home environment where hate is not taught. The gender of the parents should be irrelevent. Just because it takes a man and a women to create a child does not automatically make them the best parents for that child.