It always seemed to me a bit pointless to disapprove of homosexuality. It’s like disapproving of rain. ~Francis Maude
Month: March 2012
The Atlantis Events 2012 Southern Caribbean cruise made major headlines this week when two passengers were arrested ONBOARD the ship (The Celebrity Summit) while it was docked in the Caribbean Island of Dominica. It is said they were originally charged with buggery after having been seen from the Port of Roseau having sex on their balcony, this charge was later dropped and the men were charged with Indecent Exposure. The men from Palm Springs CA were kept in jail overnight went before a Judge the next morning, ultimately they were fined and taken to the airport to leave the island.
This series of events has stirred hundreds of comments on various social media outlets as well as major news coverage. One of the most common concerns is why would a gay group even visit a destination that has anti gay laws on the books? There are many different opinions on this, there are many Caribbean islands that are still very conservative and while these antiquated laws are still on the books they are rarely if ever enforced. There are also some destinations that are quite homophobic and are indeed dangerous to visit one being Jamaica where violence against its gay citizens is a serious problem. The fact is if you desire to only visit destinations that have no anti gay laws your list would be quite short. There were 14 states that had some type of sodomy law on the books until 2003 when they were struck down by the Supreme Court.
Others feel visiting these destinations allows the residents to see that Gay people are just like everyone else, it is unfortunate that these two men had to put a black mark on the entire cruise and further perpetuate the negative gay stereotypes so many people believe. The exercised very poor judgement this day, even if they were not engaged in a sex act they do state they were naked or less clothed than they should have been. These men feel they were arrested for being gay, if this was the case why were the other 2000 passengers not arrested?
Do your homework before your next vacation and know the laws of the land and don’t break those laws, these guys may have felt since they were other ship they cold not get in trouble but when the the ship is in port it is under the laws of that land. Exercise good judgement especially in a foreign lands where you may not have the same liberty’s as back home. The last place you want to be is kicked off a ship and locked up in a third world jail cell.
Visit this link for information on same sex laws in countries you may be visiting.
It is better to be hated for what one is than to be loved for what one isn’t.
If the side effect warning part of the commercial is longer than the benefit of the drug do you really want to give it a try? If a prescription is so dangerous to others to the extent of causing birth defects just by touching it could you in good conscious even keep it in a house with those it could cause so much damage to? I think not!
On September 22, 2010 Tyler Clementi felt he had no other alternatives than to jump off a bridge and end his life. At the tender young age of 18 when life should be nearly perfect for a musically gifted man just starting college at Rutgers University he chose to end his life.
Tyler starting his freshman year in college had told his parents before going off to school that he was gay, he was in the closet until this time, he kept his sexual orientation a secret for nearly his entire life. This is truly sad that he was not able to live his life openly as who he was due to rampant homophobia. Why it took him so long to tell his parents we will probably never know, but there had to be an underlying reason.
Tyler was a victim of homophobia, while Tyler made the decision to jump society as a whole let this young man down. When you have big political and government figures openly spewing their hate on the main media outlets it perpetuates homophobia. Unlike homosexuality people are not born homophobes, they learn it from such organizations as the westboro baptist church – perpetuating intolerance and hate.
Parents love your children no matter what and make sure they know that, talk with the about these sensitive issues and let them know they can always be open and honest with you and you will always except them as they are and support them. No parent should have to endure what Joe & Jane Clementi have just gone through – a trial of a person who contributed to Tyler’s decision to end his life.
Just imagine if Tyler was able to accept early in his life that he was gay, his parents gave him unconditional love and support so he was able to be open and honest to them, this most likely would have helped Tyler be more comfortable in who he was, had he had more confidence in himself he probably could have better coped with the bullying he ultimately received.
Teen suicide is a serious problem in both gay and straight youth and bullying plays a big role in this, below are some resources available to those who may be thinking about suicide or youth questioning their sexuality, remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem – MAKE THE CALL!
- If you are under 18 check out http://www.emptyclosets.com.
- The Trevor Project at 866 4U TREVOR. It’s a 24-hour, national help line for gay and questioning teens. You can learn more about The Trevor Project at their website: http://www.thetrevorproject.org.
- Angels and Doves is a nationwide anti-bullying non profit organization. Their website is http://www.AngelsandDoves.com
- The National Center for Bullying Prevention is helping to promote awareness and teach effective ways to respond to bullying. You can learn more about them at their website: http://www.Pacer.org/bullying
- The Matthew Shepard Foundation runs Matthew’s Place, an online community and resource center for LGBTQ youth. The website is http://www.matthewsplace.com
- If you are thinking about suicide please tell someone. You can also call the suicide prevention life line at 1-800-273-8255.